tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2219175630745017261.post2718428507689000576..comments2023-11-25T20:42:10.499+01:00Comments on From Freeways to Fjords: I do or I don't, I will or I won'tAlyssahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17935491606962392161noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2219175630745017261.post-86336169633143998652011-02-10T01:05:07.495+01:002011-02-10T01:05:07.495+01:00Alyssa,
Zach and I have talked about this lots. Fo...Alyssa,<br />Zach and I have talked about this lots. For us (even though we are not engaged yet) would rather have a civil ceremony just because we get better insurance, tax breaks and save us both a lot of worry and stress. I am the same way as you, "but but but it won't be special anymore!!" However with more thought I looked at it this way: <br />The civil ceremony is just a way to make things go smooth, it's a legal document so all the stupid law people can stamp or check whatever they need to. However, your wedding day is where you two really join as one in front of your family and friends and celebrate!! Even though traditionally both events happen in one day, try not to think of it as two totally separate occasions.. more like one ceremony just leads to another. You will be so much happier, less stressed and really truly enjoy your "white wedding dress, champagne and dancing" day knowing that your move will go smoothly. Good luck!Rachel @ Snail-Bait Killer Embroideryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11070097804985321808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2219175630745017261.post-56152419617324580982011-02-09T21:15:56.802+01:002011-02-09T21:15:56.802+01:00Marriage isn't a Disney movie. There are a lo...Marriage isn't a Disney movie. There are a lot of really practical (and wholly unglamorous) things to do before the big day. You have to set up your joint bank account, put each other’s names on life insurance policies, find a new place to live, stand in endless lines at the DMV and Social Security office, etc. The WEDDING is the glamorous time—starting a life together is anything but. <br /><br />While unromantic, the civil ceremony such a good idea. You'd have to go to the county clerk to get your marriage license anyway, so just think of the civil ceremony as part of the marriage license process. <br /><br />I promise you, either way, nothing can take away from the moment when you walk down the aisle surrounded by your family and friends. You will still be the beautiful bride with her handsome groom—the State of California is just a formality. People who do their photos ahead of time say that the wedding is unbelievable and special--it won’t be anti-climatic. <br /><br />To keep it special, maybe you should follow the super traditional rules so that you have something to look forward to in July. Don’t see each other before the ceremony, no sex before your wedding night, the white dress is only for the wedding day, etc. Basically go the extra mile to act unmarried. Know what you're looking forward to on your wedding day (cutting the cake, exchanging rings, etc.), and save it for July. <br /><br />You know the civil ceremony is the smart thing to do--the question is whether or not you WANT the civil ceremony to mean something. Do you want the family there with a celebration afterward? Do you want to acknowledge that you’re legally married? Or, do you want to just act like you only got your marriage license? A lot of people don't believe that marriages are real until they are married by a minister. <br /><br />As for the marriage license picture, the church provides a decorative one that photographs better anyway.caren.carrillohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11741334037667388701noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2219175630745017261.post-15353236408678919572011-02-09T18:47:29.147+01:002011-02-09T18:47:29.147+01:00definitely do the civil ceremony before. It will s...definitely do the civil ceremony before. It will save you lots of headaches that you won't want at the beginning of a young new marriage. It won't hinder the magic of your big day! How could it? You'll be so giddy with excitement on that day. <br /><br /><br />--Ashley JAshleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16802037284331960206noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2219175630745017261.post-59460415225865125042011-02-09T13:20:55.859+01:002011-02-09T13:20:55.859+01:00Alyssa...again we have something in common!!
this...Alyssa...again we have something in common!!<br /><br />this time it's not me per se...it's one of my best friends. She was in your dilemma more or less, planning to wed a Scottish dude. She just did the civil ceremony, and is planning on a wonderful, big Scottish wedding in 2012! She definitely had a lot of angst when coming to the conclusion, bc she always had visions of a wonderful, romantic wedding- not a civil ceremony. However she came to terms with it, and it has been the right choice for her. She needed to start her UK visa application ASAP, and she doesnt have the money right now for a nice ceremony. For you, it may or may not be the right choice. You have a couple of months to decide. Lykke til! :)Stacyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07532518466068110453noreply@blogger.com